The idea that “God wants me to be happy” is common today. Many people believe personal happiness should guide their decisions. This belief can lead to selfishness because it prioritizes one’s happiness over others’. For instance, Isaiah 53:4 (ESV) says Christ bore our griefs and sorrows. Jesus did not live for His own happiness but carried others’ burdens. Christians are called to follow His example, putting others before themselves.
Misunderstanding Happiness
Another problem with pursuing happiness is it often focuses only on the short term. The parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-24 (ESV) illustrates this. The younger son sought happiness by spending his inheritance recklessly. In the end, he found himself empty and unfulfilled. This shows that chasing happiness can lead to regret and a sense of meaninglessness.
The pursuit of happiness can also cause collateral damage. For example, many justify divorce by saying, “God wants me to be happy.” However, Judith Wallerstein’s book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, reveals the long-term harm divorce inflicts on children. Decisions made in pursuit of happiness can hurt others, even when unintended.
Misunderstanding God
This belief also misunderstands God’s nature. Some see God as a being who only wants them to feel good, like a kind grandfather. But God is more concerned with holiness than temporary happiness. Hebrews 12:7-11 (ESV) explains that God disciplines His children for their good. Discipline may feel painful, but it produces righteousness and growth.
Even the Apostle Paul learned this lesson. In 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (ESV), Paul endured suffering but realized God’s grace was enough. His trials helped him grow spiritually. God uses challenges to shape His people, teaching them dependence on Him.
Joy is God’s ultimate goal for Christians. Philippians 4:4 (ESV) and 1 Peter 1:8 (ESV) describe joy as deep, abiding, and eternal. While happiness is temporary, joy comes from trusting God through trials. By enduring hardships, Christians can discover true joy that lasts forever.
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